Having a TO DO list that never ends is exhausting and routinely leads adults and their children into a state of overwhelm. There’s so much to do and so much to achieve, but at what cost? Striving to be the best and provide the best for your family can result in rushing from one activity to the next. If you’re ready to drop, simply stop for a moment and ask, “What’s my purpose in doing this?” It might be time to tweak your week if the answer is:
1. Everyone else is…
Imagine everyone doing the same thing. No room for individual strengths to shine and way too much competition. Just because everyone is doing it doesn’t mean you have to. However, if you can honestly say, “I choose this activity because it is brings me joy or because it fits in with a healthy amount of self-discipline that I consider good for me or my children” (moderate exercise, learning something new, appropriate hours of work) then, when overwhelm threatens, remind yourself that it’s a choice. Be willing to say “no” to other things, so you can work this important activity into the week.
2. I might miss out…
FOMO is the fear of missing out. You will miss out on some things but if it also means missing out on overwhelm and exhaustion, isn’t it worth it?
3. My child deserves the best…
What is the best? Is it a week filled to the brim with activities or having time after school to play outdoors? Is it striving for perfection in every endeavour or recognising ‘good enough’ and getting sufficient sleep? If you feel your child deserves the best (who doesn’t!) ask, “Best for what?” If the goal is to be an Olympic champion then you know what you need to do. Every person’s ‘best’ is different and ultimately will depend on deep seated values.
If your TO DO list is driving you into overwhelm, it’s time to reassess. Remind yourself about the purpose for what you’re doing. It will prevent exhaustion and bring clarity to what really belongs in the week. No matter what you choose, may you be kind to yourself, realistic in your expectations and teach your family to do the same.
In summary:
- Families are at risk of taking on too much
- Running on empty? It’s time to reassess
- Wondering, what’s best? Ask, best for what?
“Let us swell with gratitude and allow it to overwhelm us. It isn't as cliche as we make it; life truly is short. Let's spend it all lavishly wallowing in gratitude.” Grace Gealey
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